Alan Freed

Profile Updated: March 18, 2020
Residing In: St. Louis, MO USA
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Occupation: Attorney/Mediator
Spouse/Partner: Merle Freed
Children: Shelby Wolf Wilhelm, born 1974
Sid Wolf, born 1979
Brooke Freed Ruiz, born 1992
Grandchildren:

Emerson Hope Wolf, born April 2011
Evan Wilhelm and Ethan Wilhelm, born July 2011
Harper Riley Wolf, born November 22, 2013

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I read Amy Friedman's fascinating profile which made me interested in what others have done in the past 40 years, so here's my version:

Music dominated the first 25 or so years after high school and divorce mediation has dominated the last 15 or so, with a healthy dose of family interspersed. I came to St. Louis to work for the St. Louis Symphony in 1976 and stayed to go to law school in 1980. What kept me here was the St. Louis Symphony Chorus, with which I enjoyed a 23 year association, 18 years as assistant director. That relationship led me to some extraordinary experiences, including conducting the chorus in the national anthem in center field of Busch Stadium before the 7th game of the 1982 World Series and a solo bow on Carnegie Hall stage in 1994, after a performance of the Mahler 3rd Symphony, for which I prepared the chorus. I have also been conducting my synagogue choir for the past 24 years and had the unique experience of blowing the shofar (ram's horn) prior to the papal mass celebrated at the TWA Dome during the 1999 papal visit to St. Louis (see photo).

Got married in 1989 to Merle, who had a 10 year old son and a 15 year old daughter. We added another daughter in 1992, the same year our eldest started college. My sainted wife has, therefore, been raising children continuously for 35 years. Still no grandchildren, though.

I've been practicing law since 1983 and focusing on family law and, more particularly, alternative dispute resolution, including mediation and collaborative divorce. I'm an adjunct professor at the Washington University Law School and just published a book on divorce.

Like many of us, I see life as a continuing series of opportunities. I could see going back to more music performance but am open to other options as they come my way.

I'd love to hear about some of my fellow a capella choir members, with whom I enjoyed many happy hours at Shaker. What have you been doing musically and otherwise?

Much news of late: middle son, Sid, will be a father in May to our first grandchild. Eldest daughter, Shelby, will be married to Brian Wilhelm on December 19th. Youngest daughter, Brooke, just got accepted to University of Arizona.

Still smiling when I think of the reunion in July. It was about as well put together any event of this kind could be. Thanks, committee.

This spring/summer (2011) have been quite eventful: three new grandchildren--a granddaughter, Emerson, and twin grandsons, Evan and Ethan--and my youngest, Brooke, starting the University of Arizona.

A few updates. Brooke is now at Webster University here in St. Louis. In late fall, we were delighted to have a fourth grandchild join the family--Harper Riley Wolf, born November 22, 2013. Gotta say, I love this grandparent gig. The two boys live in town but the two girls are in Washington, DC, so we don't get to see them nearly as much as we'd like.

Classmates You Still See Regularly:

Don't see anyone regularly but am frequently in touch with Eric Stern, Ralph Hexter, Sally Levine

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Ashton—Great to see you and your beautiful children. I remember you as a truly kind soul, a sometimes rare commodity in the wilderness of junior high, where I met you. I remember your basketball prowess and the modesty you always carried with you. Best wishes.

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My eldest, Shelby, with husband, Brian, and the Grandtwins, Ethan and Evan, born July 2011.
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My middle child, Sid, his wife, Lindsey, Harper, born November 2013, and Emerson, born April 2011 (withTyler).
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We had all our kids, their children, and their spouses (with the unfortunate exception of son-in-law Brian, who had to work) for a great Thanksgiving meal (2019) I was grateful to be able to prepare.
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Posted on: Dec 25, 2019 at 7:32 PM

Alan, i have started a list of classmates from Moreland. I will send the list to all i can think of from class pictures. I know that i will forget some of us and i will not recognize all so these will get posted on this site. Then i will begin updating everyone in early February to make a dent in getting us together. Happy Hannukah and be well.
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Hi, Rob. Great to see you on this site. I remember your beautiful voice from as far back as elementary school, so I'm glad to see you describe yourself as a musician. Hope you'll make it to next year's reunion. I'd love to catch u p.

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One more comment about Peter's doodles. I distinctly recall Krabill mentioning those doodles in class (although I couldn't have identified them as Peter's). It's remarkable the impact this man had on so many of us, particularly on those of us without any obvious "artistic" talent. 

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Mar 11, 2018 at 12:33 PM

He was the only art teacher I ever had who helped me understand visual art, rather than simply focusing on how to paint and draw, two skills I was woefully lacking in. He taught me about architecture when I was in the 8th grade—lessons I can recall some 55 years later. Thanks for sharing, Peter. 

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Glad to see your name here, David. Let us know what you've been up to and share a picture or two.

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My eldest, Shelby, with husband, Brian, and the Grandtwins, Ethan and Evan, born July 2011.
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My middle child, Sid, his wife, Lindsey, Harper, born November 2013, and Emerson, born April 2011 (withTyler).
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We had all our kids, their children, and their spouses (with the unfortunate exception of son-in-law Brian, who had to work) for a great Thanksgiving meal (2019) I was grateful to be able to prepare.
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January 1999 before the papal mass at the TWA Dome in St. Louis
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What did you look like in 1973? Here's my version (Dad's 50th birthday).
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My son, Sid.
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My daughter, Shelby.
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My daughter, Brooke, and I before the prom.